This is how you restore your nervous system.

This is how you shift frequencies.

This is how you feel your pain and you let it move through, and you let it go. This is how you dissolve whatever barriers have been holding you back. This saves eons of frustration and futility.

Because you can take all the action in the world, but if you have beliefs, wounds, or exhaustion in the way, you are not going to get anywhere.

You will spin your wheels in the mud. Then fear tells you that you should work harder. Yet spinning your wheels faster, you dig even deeper ruts.

You only thrive in life when you pay attention to your deeper self. This is how you befriend yourself. This is how you let the Universe move you in new and uncanny ways. This is how you realize you aren’t lazy; You are accurate. You are trusting in the authority and intelligence of the current. This is how you create from love instead of need.

I have to tell you about the extraordinary experience that came on the heels of embracing this time in my life. I did a meditation—where I imagined that I was leaning into growth and grace instead of absence of drive. Immediately, I felt this extraordinary sense of power. I was plugged into something that made my blood pressure hum like honeybees in love. I felt this sweet ease. The feeling wasn’t giddy. It was steady. I suddenly knew I was being responsible to myself, more responsible than I’d ever been.

It was so freeing to meet this part of myself, the queen self, not the beggar. This part of me was secure. I didn’t need to be grabbing at life for things to come my way and flourish.

I rested in magnitude and knowing.

I knew I would have what I needed, that I always had what I needed, just as that little girl in Brooklyn was being loved and cared for, even while she told herself otherwise.

This is what I want, I thought to myself. This is who I want to be. This Self is calm and knowing. The room immediately changes when this Self shows up. She follows instinct and makes ingenious decisions. She knows a perfect sense of timing. She is in the flow. She is grounded yet fluid, a chieftain, and a magician.

And from this Self, this reservoir of truth, I decided to send out energy and love, like waves of sonar, to all parts of myself. I even sent some extra loving energy to my younger self who didn’t want to go to bed all those years ago.

And when I was done imagining sending energy to different parts of myself, I paused for a moment. I felt a shift or stir in the air. Actually, I felt a strong wave of reassurance and gratitude flooding my way. Don’t quote me on this. But I think my future self, aged and wildly blessed was sending a wave of energy back to me. I smiled.