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By Tama Kieves:
I want to write a love letter to the part of you that you may be rejecting.
I want to pull up a folding chair and enter the terrible, uncomfortable zone with you, the place where you do not want to be. You might be having a hard time getting clients or finding your place in the world. Your mother might have pancreatic cancer. You might be afraid of dying.
I will join you at this threshold and tell you this: I’m sorry that it hurts sometimes. And no one else can walk with you into this cold dark night when the moon has disappeared.
Yet everyone here is also walking that road. This is the road of being truly alive.
We all face times of meeting this mystery. The problem with feeling out of control in one area in your life is that suddenly, you see how everything in your life is balancing on something as precarious as a snowflake. But I will tell you this:
Your spirit is fierce.
You will know what to do.
Life will show you.
Letting Go of Trying to Make Things Be Different…
When you are facing what you wish you weren’t facing, sometimes it helps to stop trying to force another scenario. This might be your time to let go of trying and trying. We are all trying so hard to get things right. Or trying to make “it” go away. Maybe, just maybe, you can give yourself some moments of not trying.
You might be trying to fix something that isn’t broken.
Or you might be trying to fix something that is breaking, only to be transformed.
“You have nothing to feel guilty about,” a friend of mine said to me years ago, when I felt like my life had hit a thick brick wall in every single direction. “Your life is not your fault. You are not as responsible for what is going on as you think.” I felt myself drop a weight I didn’t even know I was carrying. It felt healing. I was afraid it was a cop out, but it didn’t feel like it was a cop out. It felt as though I had just dropped in from my head to my heart.
I know we are all big on taking responsibility for our lives and bravo for that.
But your life turns on so much more than just the actions you take. There is a co-creation with the hourly burly wildness of Life itself. None of us, really, ever knows what’s going on, what’s ultimately “good” or “bad.” The Universe is alive. The Divine is a wild agent of change. Like nature, it’s not all uniform and sugar-coated. Yet what if quantum intelligence and love run through the currents of everything, shot through the whole shebang? That’s the responsibility I do take. I take responsibility for how I choose to see things.
I’ve come to realize that I am not abandoned by my Self or the Universe. I feel abandoned. But I don’t think I can disconnect from the web of wholeness, coherence, and the nuanced logic of Life. Yet I do know that I abandon intimacy with myself. I run from being there for myself or believing that I can pivot or find my way.
So, I want to find the words to awaken your heart and end any sense of isolation or abandonment. I want to tell you I believe in you. And I believe in your Life. You will find your way. The innate intelligence within you already has the coordinates.
“Life is a good teacher and a good friend,” says Buddhist nun Pema Chodron. I don’t know what you will discover from your “friend” pain or discomfort. I have found that I scare myself with stories. I make up interpretations or conclusions that aren’t true. I spiral into a future that doesn’t exist.
I tell myself I can’t handle things. Yet everything in me was born to handle this life—and even my death. I am learning to be present to what is going on right now. Being present is a way to learn from my pain instead of just looking to slam and lock a door that has just opened.
Here’s an example. One time last year when I got present with a grief that kept arising, I realized this: I had been handling so many competing uncertainties for so long as though I was simply carrying a bag of potatoes. I was acting like it was no big deal. Trying to just keep holding on. Clutching to what I think I knew. A moment of very disappointing news made me drop the bag. It made me drop everything, all my bags and let the contents and emotions spill out.
The truth is that I felt terrified of feeling vulnerable or out of control.
The truth is that I deserved my own love and compassion during that time.
That day I saw how helpless I felt, but for once I just stopped and gave the emotion breathing room. The feeling hurt. But it was also a relief in a strange way. A release. It felt loving to feel myself instead of trying to fix myself. And the feeling didn’t kill me.
That experience opened my heart to myself and to all of us. We all have our potatoes, our debts, self-comparison, or tornados. I thought about all the tenacity and hopes upon this planet. And I felt connected. I felt less removed. I even started to trust that just because I didn’t know how to “fix” my life, didn’t mean I wouldn’t be led.
Vulnerability always seems to lead me to availability.
Maybe it’s desperation. Maybe it’s inspiration.
But vulnerability makes me open to new things and new ways of seeing.
Feeling powerless doesn’t mean you are powerless.
We are all carrying so much right now. We hear terrifying news, wildfires, political unrest, disease mutations, mass shootings, but then we have to pick up the eggs. And they’re expensive. Maybe you fear that your daughter is drifting into opiates or self-abuse, but you have to ignore those thoughts and attend the Zoom meeting with your team. On top of that we get emails about how others are buying villas for God’s sake or nabbing awards. And it seems as though we are never ever doing enough, though we are more exhausted than ever. Am I living the right life? Have I wasted my chances? Will I ever find ease? The life of a frightened mind is unbearable. And yet, you are strong enough to bear this and more.
So, I want to make you blackberry tea, or, maybe, you’d prefer fresh pink lemonade. I want to tell you right now that it’s okay to feel unsettled. It’s okay to feel unclear. It’s part of being alive. It’s part of being self-aware.
We are all walking this road in the middle of the night.
And no feeling lasts forever. The fearful thoughts arrive like a fury of birds, but the birds will exhaust themselves and eventually fly away. Remember, only a part of you feels fragile. Because you are doing just fine. You’re doing more than fine. You’re here. And your spirit can and will handle anything. And you are shot through with capacities that will emerge and astonish you.
You are more than who you think you are.
Where do you sometimes face that “terrible uncomfortable zone?” How can you be present right now with this? What part(s) of yourself need love right now in this situation?
(Quick… email us and tell me a wild, true desire you have… Sharing IS strengthening! I will hold it with you in love.)
And of course, I’d love you to learn how to trust yourself more deeply. My new book LEARNING TO TRUST YOURSELF: Breaking Through the Blocks that Hold You Back is on sale now! Find out more here. 😊
With love and fierce support,
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TAMA: Honors graduate of Harvard Law School turned mojo career catalyst.
Best-selling author of This Time I Dance!: Creating the Work You Love, Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work!, A Year Without Fear: 365 Days of Magnificence, and also Thriving Through Uncertainty.
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***LIVE EVENTS THIS MONTH***
May 31 | Saturday @ 11:30am PT
PORTLAND: “Learning to Trust Yourself”
Free Talk and Book Signing at New Renaissance Bookshop
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June 1 | Sunday @ 11:00am PT
PORTLAND: “Learning to Trust Yourself”
Free Talk at Unity of Portland
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June 1 | Sunday @ 1:00pm PT
PORTLAND: “Learning to Trust Yourself: Living Your Exceptional Life”
Workshop at Unity of Portland
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June 8 | Sunday @ 11:30am MT
DENVER: “Learning to Trust Yourself: Living Your Exceptional Life”
Free Workshop at Mile Hi Church
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June 22 | Sunday @ 11:00am PT
LOS ANGELES: “Learning to Trust Yourself”
Free Talk at Unity of Tustin
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June 22 | Sunday @ 1:00pm PT
LOS ANGELES: “Learning to Trust Yourself: Living Your Exceptional Life”
Workshop at Unity of Tustin
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March 13 | Thursday @ 7pm CT
Free Talk at The Theosophical Society
Meditation, Discussion, Q&A and Book Signing.
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